There are a great many things that can hold people back from living healthy and full sex lives. One of these things is low sexual desire. Low sexual desire is typified by not being interested in sexual activities – or less so than usual – however, it may even be more specific than that.
What Causes Low Sexual Desire?
For some people, low sexual desire is just something that they have had their whole life. If this is you, you might be used to telling people that you’re just not a very sexual person. You might have met people in your life that have very high sex drives, which will feel fairly foreign to you. Some people are what is labelled asexual – they simply have zero sexual interest whatsoever.
Having low sexual desire, in this case, isn’t necessarily a bad thing. If you are not very interested in having sex and you have a partner that has a similar lack of interest in sexual intimacy, then you may be very happy together. Just because you might not have the same sort of levels of sexual desire as your friends, doesn’t mean that you are any less of a person, if you are perfectly happy with the amount of sexual desire you feel, and your partner is too.
However, if you have these feelings are you are interested in feeling sexual desire, you may want to look into professional assistance, either medicinal or counselling to see if you can raise it.
For other people, low sexual desire has been reported for those in long relationships. When we get in long relationships, often that sexual spark that when had in the beginning dissipates over time. You see your partner every day, and you see their body all the time. With that cosy sense of familiarity with someone else, it’s often seen as not as exciting as it once was.
For people in these sorts of situations, it may happen with one partner and not the other, or it may happen with both. Often, in either case, the two of you would like to revive that spark a little. To do that, often professionals recommend doing things out of the ordinary. Things, like sending your partner a spicy text message or trying something new out in the bedroom, are often suggested activities.
Sexual desire can also wane as a result of changes happening in your body. Women going through menopause often report that their libido decreases during these changes. This may be remedied by things such as hormone replacement therapy, or other medicines.
For older men, because they may have conditions such as diabetes, it can affect the blood flow, which means that they don’t have as strong an erection as they once did. Even though there may be that urge to have sex, the functionality of your body isn’t really going with you. In this case, you are often prescribed medicines to help get the blood flowing again.
Your sex drive may also be affected by temporary psychological conditions, such as anxiety or depression, and even periods of just regular stress. When your thoughts are crowded with other things, there is not really any more room in there for sexual thoughts. In this case, if you don’t want to wait it out until it passes over you need to address the cause with either medicinal, cognitive, or physical therapy – or some combination of the three. This might include things like taking a tablet for your depression, attending counselling, and doing meditation or going for massages.
Whatever the cause of low sexual desire, it can be addressed and turned around if you want to take the initiative. A good place to start with taking a look at it is a professional doctor, who can help to pinpoint the cause of your low sexual desire, and then make recommendations for how to increase it, based on your personal history and health.